It’s one of the most wonderful times of the year, or for many one of the most stressful.
I spoke at an event last week about how to stay balanced through the holidays, and one of my suggestions was to connect to your joy, become a joy seeker. Afterward, someone came up to me and asked, “How do I know what brings me joy? I have no idea what I want!”
A lack of clarity is one of the main things that blocks us from feeling connected to ourselves, and most of the time it’s because we haven’t let ourselves dream. Many of us are so busy taking care of everyone around us that we unintentionally blow ourselves off. In showing up for everyone else, we put ourselves on the back burner and we fall into low bank accounts, unhealthy bodies, and massive self-shame and guilt.
Having clarity feels like freedom. And when don’t have it we feel trapped. But this is an illusion fear plays to keep you from living a life you are connected to.
When you know what you want ,you feel more empowered and more connected to your best self. There are five key ways to feel more clarity instantly and connect to you best self.
In today’s video filmed in Berlin. Germany, I take you through five easy ways to add more joy into your life to aid in giving you more support, clarity, and fun.
Invest in experiences.
Spending your money on things that bring you lasting joy will be more rewarding than spending your money on things. Science has proven that investing in experiences rather than things will make you feel happier.
Take a look at all your stuff and ask yourself, do these items bring me joy? Do they feel good? Am I glad that I have them? If the answer is no, think about more rewarding ways to spend your money. I invest in experiences because they last a lot longer and add to living a rich life.
2. Forget about self-improvement.
So often we are focused on improving ourselves. We want to be better and change ourselves, but a better approach is to celebrate how far you’ve actually come. The next self-help book you buy or course you invest in, instead of buying it to “fix” you or to improve yourself, simply enjoy it for the experience, for the magic of learning and trying new things out. Release the expectation and let yourself be more in the moment.
3. Carve out more Me Matters moments.
Me Matters is about carving out time for you. Create a Me Matters list, a list of things that makes you feel alive and well. For me, it’s nature hikes, journaling, traveling, and spending time with loved ones. Take time for you and do what you love daily. You’ll feel more balanced and joyful.
4. Give your time.
Time is precious, and during the holidays we seem to have even less of it. Which is why I make it a point to give more of my time this time of the year. We often feel like we don’t have enough time, but this is because we spend a lot of time doing things we don’t actually want to do. When you spend your time on things you enjoy, time expands. Have you ever lost yourself in the moment doing something you love? Well, that is the value of giving yourself more time to do what brings you joy. Volunteer your time, help out a friend, support a neighbor. Giving your most precious resource, time, will help you feel more joy because you know you are contributing to the wellbeing of others and this helps the world.
5. Listen to your inspiration.
Your inner guide and heart is giving you clues all the time into what will make you feel better. Tuning into the loving nudges that are divinely inspired will help guide you to wellbeing. Don’t doubt them—trust them, lean into them, honor them.
I’d love to hear in the comments what brings you joy.
If you want to dive deeper into this topic, you can grab access to my MindBodyGreen course, Find Your Calling, I take you through a step-by-step process to get more clear about your purpose and calling.
