Soon I head to Rythmia Life Advancement Center in Costa Rica for an entire week dedicated to self-care and personal growth. I’ve been before, but have a new perspective on healing. I use to go to spiritual centers, sign up for seminars and read books and work with my coach with the hopes of being fixed. I wanted that magic bullet, the big breakthrough, the huge AHA. And this focus kept me in a circle – always chasing happiness. Today I share a message to help us get out of the pattern of chasing our big fix.
We hear it all the time in the wellness, personal development and spiritual communities: “Follow Your Heart,” “Jump and the Net Will Appear,” “Be True to Yourself and Everything Falls into Place.” Sure, these pop-inspired feel-good mantras make us feel fuzzy inside. But how often do we go to seminars, read books, take the course, yet year after year, nothing seems to change?
As someone who was diagnosed with clinical depression and suffered from eating disorders, drug addiction and corporate burnout, I know firsthand the devastating dark side of trying to be happy by looking outside of ourselves. If we aren’t careful, it becomes a rabbit hole of quick fixes and creamy self-soothing methods. I learned that the real work has to happen on the inside of us.
So many of us think we are problems that need to be fixed. But you are not broken, there is nothing wrong with you.
Has your self-help journey become self-judgment? Do you criticize yourself and feel as if you’re off track or behind? I did for decades. But I turned it around. My transformation came from doing! Actually rolling up my sleeves and doing the work that is needed to move forward in life.
Radical change requires work and most of us don’t want to do more work. We are tired as is, but what if the “work” could be fun. What if it was an adventure and became more play than actual work. When we shift our perspective to look at our life as an unfolding creative adventure rather than some destination “there” we need to get to we can free ourselves from worry and live more presently.
Going to seminars, reading books and working with coaches is wonderful and can add great value, but when we approach these situations with a need to be fixed or have a breakthrough we limit our capacity for the true reward.
In today’s new podcast episode I talk about the quest for happiness and how it’s making us unhappy. If your self-help journey has become self-judgment, this ones for you.
Watch on YouTube Here
After you listen to this weeks lesson, share in the comments how you will cultivate more joy in the journey.
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