How To Meaningfully Support Each Other Through Upheaval, Shame and Blame

This is an intense time to be on planet earth. It can feel unbearable at times, especially if you have a big heart and are an empath, someone who energetically can feel others. I want to offer some perspective to help you navigate this time with more faith, freedom and joy. Yes, I said joy—you can have joy during turmoil and uncertainty. It is something we allow and choose. And the more people who choose joy and love, the faster we can all move forward into more peace. Because everything is connected. So how do we choose joy? We look at our own biases, judgments and inner angst and see how we’ve been projecting that onto others and the world.

Let’s unpack this idea . . .

Our thoughts ripple out and create an external reality.

And I don’t know about you, but I look out into the world right now, and I see so much hate, especially on social media. I see blame, separation and a ton of pointing fingers. I see cancel out culture.

Cancel culture, has turned into a war within our own social circles, where if you don’t agree with me then I will cancel you, block you, unfriend you, talk bad about you and/or choose to ignore you. This mentality is everywhere. I’ve had personal experiences with family members, close friends and even readers taking great offense at something I say, do, or even don’t do that is not in alignment with their worldview. We have to ask, “Why do we need other people to do and be what we think is best in order for us to be okay?” We have to ask, “How did we let it get this far, where if we don’t agree then we will literally erase each other from our lives?” This is pulling us further into devastation and away from love.

Do you see it playing out too? This refers to everything happening right now on planet earth: my president vs. not my president, Black Lives Matter vs. all lives matter, wear the mask vs. don’t, the virus is going to kill us all vs. it’s a manipulation of reality and fake, gay vs. straight, I’m right and you are wrong, my religion vs. yours, the list goes on demonstrating how we have separated ourselves into smaller segments only to find if we keep going on this path, we will make ourselves invisible. If we aren’t careful, this cancel out culture is canceling ourselves. Literally wiping humanity out and away from one another.

In all of the pointing fingers, we’ve strayed from our own truth: the heart of the matter is that our differences are what make us profoundly beautiful.

We can find our strengths in our differences if we allow them. We need each other, but we’ve been so busy fighting each other, we are missing the point of living. Connection, community, unity are our truth.

I pose this question to us all: Why can’t we just allow each other to be who we are and own our beliefs without shaming each other?

This “my way is the only way” is the downfall of our morality and humanity. Here’s why this topic is so important. What we are experiencing is not just a health crisis, nor is it another revolution against injustice.

What we are experiencing is a massive awakening and global shift of awareness.

We are in a spiritual battle in the war of our consciousness. And when we cancel each other out, we let fear win and cancel out the love that is within us all. We choose separation, which keeps us even further from our truth.

Your true self does not want to attack or condemn. The real you has compassion in your heart and understands that other people’s opinions are not a real threat to your own survival. The real you knows that we are all in this together and love will prevail, so tap into the real you. Stop letting fear dictate your choices. Those of us trapped in the cycle of fear have removed ourselves from our own true power, the light within.

When we look at others and shame them, we are hurting ourselves. Because we are all connected. We are all part of the same family, the human race—we are Homo sapiens, and fighting with one another is moving us further away from the truth.

A plan for us all:

• Can you let others have their own beliefs, even if they go against your own? This is loving allowance.
• Can you try to understand where others are coming from, instead of blocking, unfollowing and refusing to see other views? This is loving compassion.
• Can you go into your heart and seek out what your inner wisdom is trying to share with you? This is a compassionate action.
• Can we stop taking things so personally and being offended as our go-to strategy for communication? This is an opportunity.
• Can you focus not just on what you are being told but shift into how you feel, not from a place of reaction but resolution? This is self-love and awareness.

We are at a crossroads, and it is bigger than a pandemic, a revolution or anything else we see outside of ourselves. We are living through a spiritual war for the fight of our consciousness. And it is all happening within each one of us. We are being asked to stand in our truth and know who we are.

But as we cast judgments on others, this blocks us from our own true power. And when we attack another in an effort to protect our own worldview, we stay safe in the box we create for ourselves, but this is harming the entire human race. What if we all let people believe what they need to in order for their own soul’s growth, without projecting our own beliefs onto them?

Just because someone thinks differently doesn’t make them wrong or your enemy. But you can do your part to help move us into more love.

I have one question for you that can radically change everything.

Where have you been separating yourself or pushing against others and the world?

What if we can open up conversations with love in our hearts and appreciation for others and their contrasting views? Our beliefs will always create our reality, but we can’t argue with other people’s truth. We must let all beliefs coexist and come together in our humanity.

There are a lot of distractions and fear in the world, and when we give our attention to these outside forces, we lose sight of our authentic power. What’s been happening in all of this blame and shame game so many of us have got caught up in, is we’ve separated ourselves from our own true innate inner power. The love and light within.

We have the power to live in harmony and peace, but it starts with how you show up for yourself and others. Look at any area in your life where you are resisting and judging. Are you pushing against what you fear and lashing out energetically? The truth is we live in a system that thrives on pushing us apart and keeping us separate from one another. Hence all the little subcategories we now squeeze ourselves into. Don’t fall into this trap.

We need each other, differences and all.

So step outside of the fear-based agenda projected at us, and step into your light, the truth within. The truth you know in your heart is that there is a better way. Let that part of you lead.

Just because someone has a different view doesn’t mean it isn’t valid. We can all exist together by allowing each other to be who we really are.

Look at the separations in your life, and make a commitment to bring more unity, compassion and understanding to each situation and relationship. Start to see where you are separated from yourself. Where are you judging yourself? From a spiritual perspective, our inner world is the creation of everything we experience on the outside. To fix the world we live in, we must address the imbalances within self first.

You know intuitively this separation from others who see things differently isn’t working. It isn’t in our true nature. We must come together and unite as one. The next time you see a social post or hear someone say something that is contradictory to your beliefs and worldview, instead of resorting to anger, say to yourself: Interesting. I now know more about that person than I did before. I wonder why they feel so strongly about this. And open the door to communication, compassion and trust.

We need each other now more than ever. Don’t let the fear pull us apart. Allow room for all beliefs and truly support one another with kindness and love. How will you listen with care to others? Let’s all come together and remove judgment and refrain from needing to prove anyone right or wrong. This is the power of one.