3 Incredibly Powerful Ways to Deal With Loneliness

Do you feel lonely? Maybe you’re single and you can’t stand the loneliness, or maybe you’re in a relationship and you feel lonely.

My entire life, even when I was in a romantic relationship, I always felt incredibly alone. I never knew why I felt lonely until I discovered self-love. I realized that when you love your own company you never really feel alone.

But being alone is different than lonely. Lonely is an emotion, and emotions can come and go.  When it shows up in our life it’s usually an indicator of what we need that we currently aren’t getting. Perhaps more love, more attention, recognition, or respect. When I get lonely I dive deep into the emotion and ask, what is this trying to show me?

It’s OK to feel lonely—it’s part of being human. How we deal with it, is what we really want to address today.

If you feel an internal sense of pain and angst and loneliness, it could be because your relationship with yourself needs more care and love.

I recognized that I was always lonely because I never really cared for or respected myself, so naturally when I started my self-love practice and chose Me Matters, I realized the power of using my loneliness as an indicator to invite more love into my life. when I started giving myself more love I felt less alone and lonely.

If you feel lonely, these steps can help you feel more alive and connected to yourself:

1. Trust yourself

When you trust yourself things start to fall into place. In today’s video I talk about a specific situation in a past relationship. For me, this looked like trusting myself when I was in the relationship and recognizing that I didn’t really want to be with that person. Loneliness was a result of me not trusting my inner knowing.

Sometimes loneliness shows up as a guide to help us align with our truth and what we need most.

So, for me, it looked like breaking up with that person and then being guided to adopt my dog, Tucker. As I let my heart open up to this beautiful animal, Tucker became this expression of love I never had before. Since he’s come into my life, he’s helped me learn the power of self-care and love. I have not felt lonely since I’ve had him in my life.

Loneliness is a perception in our minds—we can focus on it, or we can allow ourselves to trust ourselves, and our inner guide will always lead us to the things that won’t make us lonely anymore. Trust yourself.

2. Be kind to yourself in your head

How you speak to yourself about yourself is an important part of feeling less lonely. If you are mad because you’re alone, this can contribute to the depression and feeling of sadness. Instead, choose compassion and love and focus on being kind to yourself. The more you can be gentle and loving, the easier it is to become your own best friend. Speak kindly to yourself. It all starts with what you say to yourself about yourself. What loving, kind words can you say to yourself today.

3. Treat yourself like your own best friend

Becoming your own best friend is a daily practice that you can start with right away, and it starts by asking yourself, what do I like to do? Then, take yourself to go do it! Take yourself on dates—just because you are alone doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy life. Remember, when you are your own friend, you don’t feel lonely because you enjoy your own company.

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What can you do today to become more loving and kind to yourself?

I’d love to hear in the comments below.