Do you find yourself in an all to familiar situation? Perhaps the same drama keeps turning up in your life. Maybe you have changed jobs, or you are in a new relationship but the same problems keep showing up?
If you live in a constant state of Deja Vu, and find yourself repeating the same habits, patterns and mistakes than it is time to look a little deeper.
I recently coached a woman who was unhappy in her job, she took a new job and found the same mean boss was back. Although he was a different person, the same problems seemed to persist. This is also a common theme in romantic relationships.
A new relationship with a romantic partner may start to feel like you are dating an ex. And all those problems you left behind are suddenly right in front of you, yet again. If you are constantly looking to someone or something else to fill you up, you can never get what you need. The patterns will always persist. The opportunity and challenge for us is to turn inward to see the truth and that which needs real healing.
If you ask for something, like “more patience” the universe won’t give you what you ask for but rather it will guide you to situations to practice what it is you need most. It will guide you to situations to practice patience. It will challenge you to practice what it is you want and need the most.
When this happens over and over we start to feel disappointed and frustrated. Many of us skate through life unaware of the patterns until they become so large that we have to take note. We wonder why we are in the exact same situation we thought we walked away from. If you are tired of the situations repeating themselves and you want new results these tips can help.
Recognize Your Patterns
This pattern will continue until we are ready to have a different experience. Our patterns are perpetuations of what we believe. If we believe we are unworthy, then we will continue to meet people and be in relationships that make us feel unworthy. It is only when we recognize the pattern and turn inward and ask what is this situation trying to teach me.
Look at What You Gain
Sometimes we actually derive satisfaction for proving that we are right, again and again. We could gain a sense of safety each time these patterns happen because we feel as if we have an understanding of how the world works. We feel validated in the sense that the pattern has proved on course yet again.
Show Up For the Assignment
All relationships are assignments. Look at your own life and see what you can learn from each person in your life. The aspects that challenge you the most can be your greatest opportunity for true healing.
Great message. I hate to say it but the grammar was pretty distracting for me. (ie “patients” vs “patience” and “than” vs “then”).
Thank you. I appreciate you pointing it out. Something I am sincerely working on. XO