It’s my birthday week. 43 years ago my Mom raced to the hospital for an emergency C-section. I was born premature, eight weeks early, only 3 lbs. 2 oz. shoved and stuck in an incubator for the first several weeks of my life. I never realized until adulthood how much childhood and being premature impacted my life.
For decades I felt like I didn’t fit in, I always felt invalidated, and I believed, “I don’t belong, something’s wrong with me.” “I am never chosen?” It wasn’t until I started doing the inner work and healing my inner child, did I recognize how much our childhood affects and informs our choices as adults.
Born as an empath, and highly sensitive person, highly intuitive, and a Pisces, extremely emotional-deep, water sign, I never knew how to understand or accept my natural self, because I was always taught and told, “I was too sensitive,” “too dramatic,” or that “I need to calm down.” I took these illusions on and it became my story and the lens through which I saw life, until I discovered how limiting these beliefs and patterns were.
We can hang out in our stories and stay stuck in the energy of our wounds, or we can reclaim our power and say enough! Today, I declare enough! I no longer attach to the stories or past limitations.
I am enough and my sensitivity is a superpower and incredible strength. And I’ve realized that it is not important to fit in our belong, (especially into a world that needs you to betray yourself in order to fit,) for I’ve discovered I already fit, when I love and accept myself, and the world can adjust.
Life on the other side of our limitations is freedom, and where our truth lives. Today, I celebrate all of who I have been, all I am, and all I am becoming. And I am so thankful for you love and support and allowing me to be here alongside you on this incredible life journey. I’ve learned some incredible life lessons and it is an honor to share them with you along this journey.
In the spirit of celebration and honoring life, here are 43 lessons. I’ve learned in the past 43 years:
- When you nurture the inside the outside will flourish.
- We always have enough time, money, and energy for what is most important to us.
- Our amount of fear or our amount of love will determine our state of reality.
- The things we are taught that are weaknesses, being vulnerable, expressing our emotions, sharing ourselves, and asking for help, are actually our greatest strengths.
- Everything and everyone can be your teacher.
- No matter where you go (in the world) there you are, you can’t escape or run from the patterns and lessons that need to be learned.
- My worth is not tied to anything outside of myself. My validation does not come from what I do, or who I can help, fix, or save, I am enough as I am, we all are.
- Anxiety doesn’t necessarily come from overthinking the future, but from wanting to control it or feeling as if we have no control over it. Release it by surrendering and trusting.
- Depression is often a manifestation of a repression of our self. To free yourself be yourself.
- When we feel unsettled it’s because we know we are made for more.
- Your intuition is never misinformation.
- The more you trust yourself and follow your soul’s calling, the richer your life becomes.
- Labels are limiting. Release them.
- You don’t always have to tell your side of the story, time will.
- Character is more important than charisma. How you make people feel is more important than how they make you look.
- Standing up for what you believe in, is never wrong. Ever.
- What is (or was) has no bearing on what will be.
- We learn the way on the way. You can reinvite yourself at any time.
- Expectations limit results. Release them.
- What people say and do is a reflection of them, not you (it’s best not to personalize anything).
- Others can only love and give to the capacity in which they love and know themselves.
- What you experience is always for your highest good.
- If you have to think about it then yes you deserve better. Know your worth and respect yourself much sooner.
- Your thoughts create results.
- Food is medicine and nature heals.
- Our bodies can, want, and will heal themselves.
- Trying to force things to fit simply keeps you from what is meant for you.
- The sooner you can let go, the faster you will grow.
- The more inner work you do, the healthier your relationships, and life will be.
- Everyone is on their own journey, trust that path made and created for you.
- When you love and appreciate yourself, life becomes easier, softer, and much more beautiful.
- Your relationship with your body reflects your relationship with all of life.
- Only you have the key to set yourself free.
- All healing is essentially the release from fear.
- All problems are pathways.
- Rejection is always redirection and divine protection.
- Our future is not ahead of us. It is inside of us.
- You can create/ manifest anything you want, but you have to believe you are worth it and trust the timing.
- How you love and show up for yourself is how you teach others to love and respect you.
- We always have a choice thinking we don’t have a choice is indeed a choice
- It takes a lot more energy to play small, hide yourself, or try to fit in than it does to be your true self.
- Whatever the question, the answer is more love. Love heals.
- We are all Gorgeous Grace.
